HOW TO FEEL BETTER
Today’s post is called How To Feel Better … but first we need to talk about vegan restaurant waitresses.
I’m not sure what it is about vegan restaurants, but I seem to always get the worst waitresses!!!
They’re kind of snarky, ignore the table and actually argue with you about your questions, comments and choices. It happened to me twice last week.
Restaurant #1 – the waitress told my lunch date that the ‘verbena’ tea wasn’t lemony … we both said ‘isn’t verbena a lemon-based scent?” She argued … we tasted the tea, she was wrong.
Restaurant #2 – I had to practically stand up and wave my hands over my head to get the waitresses attention to get the bill. Ignored … and the restaurant was much less busy than when we sat down.
In the second case, maybe it wasn’t such a bad thing that she didn’t hover over us, because my friend was in tears for most of our time there, having some afternoon tea. That’s what I wanted to talk to you about today.
LET’S TALK ABOUT FEELINGS
In the first 2 posts in this series on the Model, we’ve talked about Circumstances and our Thoughts. Today is a big topic – we’re talking about feelings.
My friend was in the middle of a difficult few weeks on the film she is working on – they aren’t having any luck finding a replacement for someone who had quit, the Costume Designer isn’t being clear and there seems to be a mountain of things to do and she’s thinking that she has to do everything or it just won’t get done.
Those are all just thoughts actually.
But the bigger problem was the thoughts that she didn’t say out loud at first … thoughts like ‘why does this always happen to me’ ‘I can’t do this anymore’ ‘I don’t know what I want to do with my life’…. etc. etc.
When she started to think those thoughts, the tears started.
I asked her what she was feeling … and she said overwhelmed. It’s clear that if you were thinking thoughts like “I have to do everything or it just won’t get done” and “why does this always happen to me”, you could easily start feeling overwhelmed.
And when you’re overwhelmed – you’re not productive.
You don’t make any concrete plans.
You don’t deliberately solve problems.
You get frozen into “analysis paralysis”, stop delegating and asking for the support that you need.
That’s what happened to my friend.
She actually did know how to solve a lot of the problems … i.e. the correct actions to take. But she was wallowing in the emotion of “overwhelm” … which didn’t serve her at all, and in fact made her feel worse (when she thought she was trying to figure out how to feel better).
The problem is, this is a habitual pattern for her. She starts off on new projects thinking that they’ll be great and then ends up crying in restaurants, while being ignored by the snarky waitresses.
Here’s today’s takeaway to remember – our feelings generate our actions.
Positive feelings lead to positive actions. Negative feelings lead to negative actions.
It’s really that simple.
So my question for you today is where are you feeling negative feelings in your life?
Where are things “always” a problem, or “never” working out for you?
If you want to feel better ask yourself those hard questions and look at your thoughts that are creating those feelings.
Our thoughts create our feelings. Choose your thoughts and your feelings wisely my friends.
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I will take you through my Before and After process and we’ll create a plan to get you on track for the life & business of your dreams.
You’ll learn how coaching can help you manage your mind everyday and finally deal with all that “Entrepreneur Anxiety” you’re struggling with right now.
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